In my “former life,” as I always like to call my past, there was this period when I was having it tough, like really tough. Everything seemed drab and stale. Nothing excited me and waking up to a new day wasn’t something I looked forward to because I was afraid of living a fresh day in the same tasteless way.
It seemed I was going through the motions, with life zipping right in front of my eyes but I wasn’t a part of it. Worse off, was the fact that I couldn’t bring myself to express how I felt to anyone because I was scared no one would understand. Heck! I couldn’t even understand myself.
It was a gloomy period for me and I was getting swallowed by the darkness of it all. The happy-go-lucky lass that I was, concealed all these behind facades of smiles and “happiness” so people could hardly tell I was suffering on the inside.
One day, I grew tired of it all and knew I had to talk some sense into me. “Get off your behind, young lady and live your life,” I scolded me. “Where do you get off feeling down when you have a beautiful life just wasting away? You were created for a whole lot more than you are right now. This is not you. This is not who you are meant to be. You are gifted in more ways than you can imagine. Why waste them? What would you say is your problem right now?” I went on chiding myself.
I got off my bed and went to the mirror. I looked me in the eyes and said,
“I am beautiful”
“I am amazing”
“I am enough”
“I am bold and confident”
“I got potentials”
“My opinion of me is what matters”
“I got my destiny and my own path to follow”
“I am ME and I ROCK.”
I wrote a number of these self-efficacy beliefs and put them in a place where I could always see them. I kept repeating these words to myself everyday until I believed every word I had penned down and today I am better for it all.
I am mostly happy about that challenging period of my life because it made me realize the strengths I never knew I had locked deep down within the vaults of my inner self.
Today, I am a fulfilled young woman who is living the best of her life and getting the best out of everything.
There are some times in life when you need no other than yourself to get that motivation you desire. Sure, it is a good feeling when we get encouraged by others but sometimes you need to hear that motivational speech from none other than yourself.
One way or the other, we may have experienced some odd days when we feel quite uncertain about our life’s direction or some things we are involved in or not involved in – it could be the stage we are in life, our appearance, our hang out crowd, thoughts of some hurtful spoken words to us in time past that still lingers.
Somehow, we feel that sense of discouragement and we lose any motivation to get on with the day. We delude ourselves to accept our sad or pathetic realities or even the negative opinions of others about us. We use these as shackles to bound ourselves to stagnancy and retrogression and we keep crying that our lives are dormant.
More often than not, we hold the key that would free us from the prison in which we have caged ourselves out of ignorance. On days like this, you need a set of reminders to again bring to your consciousness who you really are. These reminders are what we call MANTRAS. They are meant to be said repeatedly until they become a part of you.
These mantras are meant to strengthen not only your physical but most importantly your mental health and help you overcome those moments of weakness or crisis. Just like I did, you could say of yourself:
- I am beautiful
- I am successful
- I have potentials
- I am bold and confident
- I deserve to be loved and respected
And the list can go on and on.
Write on that paper those things you desire for yourself because as someone once said, “You’ll be amazed at what you attract after you start believing in what you deserve.”
Believe in these words and live them out. Your transformation would shock you. I can’t wait to hear your success story.
How has self-efficacy beliefs or mantras helped you? Let’s gist in the comment section below.